Love , Sex and Marriage

I must write about Love, Sex and Marriage. Young people want guidance about love, sex, and marriage. In every century people want to know about Love, Sex and Marriage. Love and Sex are the nature of the human body or the nature of all creations. The love of males is different. Female thinks about love differently. Male wants to create, and female wants to bring the child to the universe. But, in each creation or species, it is the same.
Marriage is created later on by human society to stop the production of bastards. Sociologists proved that marriage is a better method to maintain the growth of society in a better way. Society can progress better by marital life. Women or females alone can not protect children. So marriage or bond of male or female helped to create a better society.
Sex and the Stomach are two main causes of war. Sex or greed can never be satisfied. Sex is due to food. Food creates energy with the help of vitamins, minerals, or amino acids. This energy can be better utilized to develop brain power or extra power like Hanuman. If you can not control sex, then you can create problems in society. Sex causes drainage of power created by food. Vegetarian Food is considered better than non-vegetarian food, as per Geeta. Sex worker helps the society to maintain peace. Due to Sex workers, humans are different than animals. I respect them. Sex is not a love emotion. Sex is like the satisfaction of hunger with food. Love is different. Marriage or the purpose of marriage is different. Read Srimad Bhagwat Geeta by Author

Love is different. I have written in one of my articles why did I fail. Please read that for love. I like the love of Savitri and Satyavan. Such a type of love is scarce in this selfish world. I love someone ( Say X ). Someone ( Say Y ) loves me ( Say, X ). I marry someone else ( Say Z ). I had sex with ( Say a, b, and c ). I am giving these examples to make them easy to understand. I am not an expert like Shoba De or Khushwant Singh. I am not a writer. I am only trying to tell the next generation that Love, Sex, and Marriage are different aspects of life. Do not get confused. Treat love as a gift given by God. I have met only one or two people who could marry those whom they loved and died with them. Most of them forgot love within 3 months or 3 years of marriage. Later on, marriage was only an act of compromise for children's sake or for the sake of selfish compulsions. Sex is a need for the body for youth and up to certain age. Contract Marriage is an example in many societies. Age for sex varies with the food habits and positions of planets. The effect of Mars and Venus on sexual life can be read in my Astrology. With good and rich food and body exercises, one can have a better sex life. For longer life, one should control sexual desires. Once youth asked me about premarital sex or about having sex before marriage or losing virginity. I replied that nothing is good or bad. One should not exploit others' sentiments. One should not deceive someone. One should be fair, and one should be truthful. But I know many boys want sex for the sake of fun. Sex is, for them, a game. No sincerity. It is nature. Females have to bear children. She has to create life. She has to give the child milk. She has to teach new creation art of living. For females, it is not fun. Now with new family planning methods, sex has become more common. Sex is only a Saturday dream for working men or women.

So Sex, Love, and Marriage are all different aspects of life. One should not mix it. One should not get confused with the other's sweet words. Once I met one married woman who wanted to have sex always with new young boys. She thought that by this, she can maintain her young body. It is false. One can maintain her body by control on desire only. Desire can never be satisfied. So one should know how to control desire. Hunger for Sex or Wealth can never be satisfied.
Later on, I realized that It is not in our hands. We are only puppets in the hand of destiny. Planets affect our life. So we must worship these planets. We are human beings. Souls are moving in this cosmic universe. These souls are more powerful. So we are their playthings or toys.
So Sex is one part of life. Love is a different part of human life. Marriage is totally for a different purpose.

How did my education fail me?

1970- 1974 Europe (mostly in West Berlin and West Germany)

The period from 1979- 1987

These years failed me. I was thinking about my aim to unite the world. But I did not do any work for my aim. I wanted to leave my home or parents and wanted to work for my aim. So I compromised with my father. I did not want to hurt him as he told me, " When I was a child, my father died. When I am old, I shall think that my son died." He said when I wanted to leave home and wanted to go to Calcutta or Bombay from Delhi. But his emotional words stopped me from leaving home. I feel today he was right. He must be knowing that his son is a good person. He shall be exploited by crooked people. So he tried to stop me with emotions. I came under his influence. So I did not leave him, but I left India to study more. I went to Germany. I studied the German Language in Max Mueller Bhavan Poona. It must be a period from February 1970 to August 1970. In October I went to Germany.

When I read my books, written by me during those days, I only find that I wanted to work for Unity of the World. I wanted to help. In actual practice, nothing happened. I only wrote and wrote. I worked to earn my livelihood and earned money to study. Time just passed. One year, second year and third year, and so next years. The only good part of this study was passing my later life successfully without worrying about money. 

Due to my Ideology, I worked hard and wanted to help others. Whenever I was in a position to help as Managing Director or Chief Executive of a Brewery, I helped poor workers and families of prostitutes by giving them jobs in a brewery. I gave an equal salary to Men or Women for the same work. Men objected, but I paid an equal salary. 

Jaipal Singh Datta (Manager) and A.P. Raju (Director) of Artos Breweries Ltd welcome Brigadier (Dr.) Kapil Mohan V.S.M. and Managing Director of Mohan Meakin Ltd and Mr. B.D.Bali Managing Director of Mount Shivalik Breweries and Trade Links. 

Jaipal Singh Datta explains the brewing process to Raj Babu of Ramachandrapuram and Krishna of Kakinada (East Godavari legislature members)

I gave special incentives to workers who married interstate, the opposite sex. I tried to work without earning more money. It helped society. Sick Brewery could be converted to a healthy unit. Due to my Ideology, I adopted a village nearby this brewery. During a study in Germany, I could understand the difference between a capitalistic country and a socialistic country. I was an Indian who could meet East Berlin People. I could cross the national boundaries. I could meet East Berlin people. I met Fraulein Lilo. I could know two different systems of national governess. Capitalistic or Socialistic.

Visit of Director of Mohan Meakin Ltd - Gurusharan Singh Choudhri with local M.L.As of Esat Godavari District Andhra Pradesh India.

P.V.Subba Rao (Secretary of Artos Breweries Ltd), G.S. Choudhri (Director of Mohan Meakin Ltd), V.S.S.Sharma (State Excise Inspector), Jaipal Singh Datta (Chief Executive of Artos Breweries Ltd), and V.V.S. Ravindranathan (Brew Master of Artos Breweries Ltd). 

Director of Mohan Meakin Ltd G.S. Choudhry discusses the brewery project with Jaipal, Ravi, Anil Sood, Rajesh Datta, Kashi Babu, Konda Babu of Brewery. The fact remains that I failed to achieve my aim. I could not work to unite the people, or I could not teach for the unity of the world. I had to earn money to live and study. I worked and earned and earned so much, which was just sufficient to study and live. I could read books on Mao. Maoists were considered more left-oriented than Marxists or Leninists. I could not work for the unity of the world. Time just passed. I failed and regret it. I feel bad about myself, about my sacrifice of love and my love. Later on, I just lived, and there was no aim. There was no desire and no feeling in me. It helped my master, but It did not help me. I earned and just passed my time. I was lucky to have a good job. But I failed. I developed personal relations with senior IAS officers like Jainder Singh, Deepak Panwar, Ashok Kumar Goel, or Malkundayya. I came to know about administration. I came in contact with masses and different politicians, including chief ministers of Andhra Pradesh like N.T.Rama Rao.

Members of the Legislature of East Godavari are smelling hops which are produced in Kashmir, India.

But I failed. I failed because my aim did not employ me or give me money. I wanted money to earn or to live. So I failed. Today I know it was due to the period of Shani, Budha, and Ketu Planets. It also taught me that we are only puppets in the hand of destiny. I missed my golden period of life. I could have enjoyed the company with whom one may like to live or die together. I failed in my aim, and I failed in my love, and I lost my life. I just passed my life.

My dream of Global World

Bogota - Visit Hilltop and taking tea in a restaurant 

"Between humanity and fate, 

None have on earth what they desire;
Death comes to all sooner or later,
And peace is but a wandering fire". Sarojini Naidu

Peace should be the aim and end of each and every life.
Death is the real enjoyment of life.
Fighting for peace is just like fucking for virginity.
Miracles sometimes occur, but one has to work terribly hard for them.

I wrote in 1967-68. " India got freedom on 15th August 1947. We are going to celebrate its 20th celebration. I came two months late in this World. Now, after 20 years, I feel that we are not behaving properly with the World. We are busy in our thoughts. We are not fulfilling our duties. We are corrupt. We are moving towards destruction. What are leaders doing? Are our leaders not taking money to amass wealth? Actually, this system of voting as a whole is bad. When I say bad, it was bad and will remain bad for a few years or more. When voting power is in the hands of uneducated people, how can they judge the candidate seeking a vote? Should uneducated people be given the right to cast votes? When a man wastes lacs of Rupees on the election, will he not earn money after elections? If he wants to stand again for a minister, he needs money for election, and he has to earn lacs to spend lacs. From where will leaders take money? They may take money from Industrialists or take money from those contractors whom they have given money.

I shall like to appeal to the younger generations to work hard and try to unite the world. You must cross boundaries. It should be peaceful. Never take the law into your hand. I do not want people should live separately. There should not be any boundaries. I want religion should be one. We should respect others' religions also. There should not be any caste system. One should not differentiate based on caste, color, or National Boundaries. We should allow international marriages, interstate marriages. This shall produce children of a new culture. This shall generate new feelings of love and love for humanity. This may be my New India or my new World.

We all are human beings. We are compelled by unknown forces to live in this world. To live, we must eat food that gives energy. Due to different living conditions on this earth, we need shelter and clothing. Moreover, human beings want to live together in a society. Human beings are social, rational, political, and national-territorial animals. All characteristics change with time. Characteristics of human beings are ego, jealousy, pride, desire, flaunt and flout, selfishness, altruistic and sacrificing. In addition to this, sex and stomach are the two main needs of living beings. To satisfy their instincts, some exploit others and even use violent means.

To live in peace and happiness, intelligent, unselfish created a governing system accepted by society as per their culture and zeitgeist. I know my Ideas are very far away from normal human Intellect. But I shall like to argue for this. I shall give my life for this. I consider a world without any boundaries. No military to fight. Police to take care of normal human crimes. Are our grandfathers not the same? Are we not human beings? Are we not related by human blood? Youths should come forward. Youth should develop a new system and learn from the history of civilization. Young people are good and say, "we want food and love. We do not want war. We want to help other countries. It is humanity that is more important than our country. Basic necessities are water, milk, food, cloth, and sex. I favor rights for freedom, speech, property, love, and duty.

Later on, I realized that this is part of democracy. The world is divided into many countries. Different political systems are tried by different nations. Democracy was tried in the USA, India, United Kingdom, France, West Germany, etc. The Socialist administrative system was tried in U.S.S.R.(Russia ). Another Socialistic System was tried by China. Kingdom by Nepal, Bhutan, etc. Each country was trying to feed its citizens and trying to develop and experience different political systems. So that capital can be accumulated, and the nation can progress. All nations tried to remove hunger. Some rulers ruled without selfish ends and some with selfish aims. As I have explained earlier that none can take wealth to the next life, so wealth remained in this world.

According to my experience, time has proved that democracy is the best governing system for some countries. Political corruption may be part of democracy. Why? For greed and grievance are human instincts, but checks and balances minimize corruption. Democracy always facilitates change and accepts new methods for the governess. In a dictatorship, it is not possible. Democracy is a more stable political system than Socialistic or Communistic or rule by dictators of poor people. Democracy is vibrant. It adopts changes. It is flexible. It reasons. Reasons can be explained by educated and uneducated but worldly genius politicians. In India, Kamraj (Tamilnadu's leader of the 1960s) is an example.

Youth always think about the future. They dream. They dream of a better future. They may be successful in achieving their dreams, or they may fail like me. But today, I know that we only think and act as per the wishes of planets. We are actors. We are robots with actual blood. Our brain or hard disc is controlled by people living on other planets. So we have to act and die. I failed because I was not assigned this job. My Job was different. I wish you all the best.

Recently I wrote on 1 August 2021 

"War causes genocide, mass killing, migration, hunger, rape, in other words, suffering to humanity. My research aims to achieve and maintain peace, for peace provides sustainable growth, prosperity, and happiness. If we follow John Rawls's veil of ignorance and ask people of the world, I am sure that all may like to live in peace and prosperity.

But the question is how to achieve peace for the people of the world, who are 9 billion in number with different cultures, colors, races, and goals. Some are rich, educated, cooperative, generous, hardworking, nonviolent, democratic, and others are selfish, illiterate, jealous, power-hungry, rogue, and believe political power comes out of the barrel of a gun or with modern technology and weapons of mass destruction. Asymmetric war and hidden greed of war industries are tearing all boundaries of nation-states. Due to this conflicting nature, humanity lost 865 million fellow human beings from 1945 to 1990. People are afraid of cruelty than love. Many invaders came to India and looted wealth created by peaceful Indians. Gajnavi attacked Somnath temple, looted and raped many times.

Nothing can be achieved individually. There should be teamwork and organization. It involves politics. Administrative reforms can tackle these politics and small conflicts. But what about the personality clash between state leaders and the power politics of corrupt political leaders in the states. The Westphalian system, league of nations, and United Nations failed to bring peace and prosperity to humankind. In Afghanistan United Nations, the British, Russia, the US with European powers could not bring peace and democracy. What should be the solution under new world conditions?

James Madison rightly said, “If men were angels, no government would be necessary.”

As of today, we all are dependent on each other. The world has shrunk to a small family. Information travels faster than light and in many directions. The world is spending a lot of money to maintain the sanctity of national boundaries. But states are independent. The environment is degrading. United Nations failed in managing sustainable industrial and population growth. Urbanization is causing social problems. Fear of nuclear war by AI Robots and Thucydides' phenomena may cause a conflict of unheard damage to humanity.

That is why it is essential to study the governing political methods adopted by India, China, and Europe. I shall research the governance structure adopted by MNCs. My dissertation shall explain, should humanity adopt a Unipolar, bipolar or multipolar world? Are there any peaceful methods to achieve a unipolar world? Even if we achieve peace, how long can we maintain that peace? I hope my dissertation shall answer the said questions. One should think beyond and create a new political system for a new welfare world for the next generation. Historical memories of Ramayan, Mahabharat, and Ashoka teach public governance and the qualities of rulers. Islamic and Christian period teaches different aspects of human nature.

Development of science and technology compels humanity to rethink governing human existence."

 What is the problem?

Greed and grievance cause genocide, mass killings, murder, rape, migration, hunger, poverty, and inequality. Definition of identity, religion, territory needs rethinking. The War industry spends billions of dollars per year. How new technologies and advancement affecting us read https://informedfutures.org/our-research/

Why is this problem significant?

•      Destruction of humanity is the main cause. For example, (84 million civilians were killed in genocide and mass killing episodes since 1900, while roughly 36 million combatants died in inter-and intrastate wars and just 250,000 people were killed in incidents of terrorism (Anderton 2014). Yet there are fewer than 50 quantitative studies of genocide and mass killing compared to more than 500 interstate wars and more than 100 each of terrorism and civil war (Anderton and Carter 2015) (865 million deaths by governments from 1945 to 1990 (William Eckhardt 1992).

•       Loss of property and lives

•       Destruction of material comforts and happiness

•       The society shall crumble to sin

 What is the expected contribution of this research?

•       What is the best method to govern states to minimize conflict? Should it be unipolar, bipolar, multipolar, or unipolar with multipolar regions? What are the advantages and disadvantages? What theories should academics, political leaders, elites, media, and the judiciary formulate? How to change the culture so that the next generation can live in peace.

Peace, Prosperity, and Happiness

 

My First Experience with Truth

30 August 2021

Justice Chandrachud of the Supreme Court of India says that Citizens can't depend on governments alone on truth. He said truth faces a tough time with the proliferation of social media which exacerbates the circulation of fake news. "It is undeniable that the phenomenon of fake news is on the rise. A pertinent example of this is that the WHO recently termed the current Covid-19 pandemic as also being an infodemic, due to the overabundance of misinformation online. However, Scholars have also noted that fake news or false information is not a new phenomenon, having been in existence for as long as print media has existed. But the rapid advancement in technology and the spread of internet access has definitely exacerbated this problem." 

Does it not prove my point which I wrote in 1968 around 53 years before? In other words, it also proves that truth is what victors write and explain to the next generations. We all need rethinking about truth and truth commission. 

https://twitter.com/timesofindia/status/1431874260708913153

8 January 1968

 Punjab Engineering College, Chandigarh (1965-69 Tutorial batch - with Prof Ghumman)

It was the 8th of January 1968. I was in my third year of Mechanical Engineering at Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh, Punjab University. During that time India was producing more engineers. Doctors, Engineers, and Lawyers were considered leaders of the society. These jobs were well paid. Due to certain reasons, there was more supply of engineering graduates than the demand of engineering graduates. In Industry engineering jobs were occupied by diploma holders or sometimes even by good fitters who may be in high school and are able to read some engineering books. Boilers were not produced in India. So there was unemployment amongst engineers. Some leaders came from Punjab University and wanted to do strike and wanted to submit a charter of demands to the Commissioner of Chandigarh. one can call him administrative head of Government. I took an active part in this. 

I knew that I have a connection with Mohan Meakin and I shall get a job. So this matched with my aim to serve others. As this may not spoil my carrier. Normally taking part in the strike can jeopardize your carrier. Professor can write in character certificate. So one may not get a job. But I was sure about my job. So I took an active part and discussed with all the students to take part in the demonstration and help each other. 

The working committee decided to do a peaceful demonstration. I was active. We all went to D.C. office sector 17, Chandigarh. Students were sitting peacefully. I was very near to D.C. Before I realized it, D.C. ordered for Lathi Charge (order to beat demonstrators with sticks). I was standing with him. I argued. I told them that all were peaceful. Why did you order for Lathi Charge? I was arguing with him when some police person hit on my buttocks with a stick. I was arrested by Police. Police took some boys who were standing nearby me. We all were taken to Police Station. As Police lathi-charged, a mob ran in all directions. Later on, we came to know that the mob burnt buses and I do not know what more.

 We were kept in Hawalat for 36 hours. We were produced in court and were taken to Ambala jail. I was surprised, how all these charges were levied against me? I was peaceful and was standing with D.C. How can criminal cases be levied against me? But it was fact and I took time to understand that what one sees or reads in Newspaper may not be correct. People can write what suits them. Truth is always a causality in public life. There was still the influence of leaders who fought for freedom. But as time passed I realized that ideals of service to humanity are only good on paper. Some selfish people are exploiting these emotions for their personal gains. I was nowhere near to these politicians. So I failed miserably. 

Leaders were talking something else and practicing something else. This was hard fact of life. I also understood later on that selfish people were more successful than saintly people. Truth is powerful. But Truth can never give you money. Without Power Politics, one can not succeed. So I failed. I failed miserably. 

I concluded then nothing is in my hand. We are only puppets in the hand of destiny. The administration is different. Administrators are also servants to politicians. One can lead a political party if one is selfish. Politics also needs money. So Theory is blind without practice. Practice is sterile without theory. Anyhow, later on, all the cases were withdrawn by Administration at the request of the principal of the engineering college.

Love or Love of first sight

My Class Fellows of French Certificate Course in Punjab University Chandigarh.

I remember Madam A. Boolchand and Anita Dharamani.

Uncle Mohinder Sen with my father Gurusharan Singh Datta 

I wrote on 7th July 1967. "Love is the gift given by God. Enjoy it. All are not so lucky." The writings of some poets are mentioned below. 

 "Virtue should be the aim and end of every life, All Else is Vain.

 Duty should be its the dearest friend If higher life it would attain." 

 "We go to marriage or to death At determined time and place. We are her plaything; she blows us where She lists in space."

 "So frank and noble that the eye, was loth to quit that sun-browned face

 She looked and looked then gave a sigh, and slackened suddenly her pace, 

What was the meaning; was it love Love at first sight, as the Poets sing." 

 On 9th March 1968,  I am not able to distinguish between love and passion. Love should be unselfish. Passion may be selfish. Love should be dutiful. Passion does not understand duty or responsibility. Is it true? If it is, then why does a man love his wife after marriage? Why do you want good qualities in the opposite sex? Why do you want to marry a rich man or woman? How can love beget after marriage?

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh (Now known as PEC University of Technology)

After selecting your partner for your personal gains that can not be love, love can not be selfish. People love each other due to their selfish gains, and then they call it love. It can not be love. It may be contractual living for selfish gains or interest. Love does not calculate money. Love does not see caste, race, size, facial cuts, hair, qualifications, or family. Passion in the form of marriage sees these qualifications. 

Love is natural. The heart of a man beats rapidly when he sees a girl in a sexy dress. It is not loving. It is passion. It generates a sexual feeling in a man. When the heart of a man beats due to the grace of a lady, due to the polite talk of a girl, then it is love. It is love because it is not due to selfish interests. It is due to appreciation. It is due to brainpower. It is not due to physical power. So this is the difference between love and passion. 

Passion creates feelings of love and sex also. When you want to sacrifice your life for one sight of your beloved person, then it is love. Such a sacrifice is known as part of love. If it is true love, then it will succeed. It will overrule every part of life. Love is immortal. Love can bring life from the jaws of death back to the universe. God also loves those who love and love truly.

 I saw her again. I know nothing about her. I want to see her again and again. I may call it one-sided love. I never had the courage to talk to her. I enjoyed her company. I wanted to talk to her. I wanted to see her. I was mad at her. But destiny had something else for me. I know that the world is selfish. Parents are selfish. Children are selfish. Leaders are selfish. Government is selfish. I know she does not coincide with my ideology. I wanted Doctor Wife who may earn, and I may spend my time working for the unity of the world or serving others. She is not a Doctor. Love is staking, stumbling. My aim is to overpower my emotions. I see so many faces. I meet so many girls. Why She? I can not proceed forward. She may be hesitant. She may also be fearing. Love which may be in a starting stage can be crushed with the fastness of time. Time heals, and one forgets. This is the law of Nature. 

Love is so nice. You can spend the complete night remembering your love. You may cry for her. But once time has passed and you have missed that opportunity, it is challenging to get back. I came to know her name. Her father was General Manager at C.T.U. I loved her. I used to feel good after seeing her, after talking to her. I told her about her father's visit to our college and remarked that he is a great man. Once She and I appeared in a test. I got 37 and a half. Madam was checking her copy. I also stood near her and wanted to check her numbers. I told you that You got fewer marks. I was the secretary of the French Certificate course at Punjab University. I counted her marks and left, as I felt it was unnecessary to stay for a longer time. It may give a bad impression. 

 The next day she was angry. She said that I thought you were helping me. I wanted to meet her father. I knew someone who could take me to her house. But soon, I realized that I am in love. I may forget my aim. My Aim is more important. I must work hard to complete my aim. Still, love overpowered me. I asked her about her studies. What will she like to do? What does she think about working girl? I thought I shall marry her. She is from a good family. Her nature is good. She is beautiful. I thought that if she works, then I shall marry. Why am I writing all these thoughts? It keeps a record of events and time. It tells me that time has gone by and you did all this, and It may be delightful during my old age. I shall study my all thoughts and shall enjoy all this. 

The idea to work for Unity of the World is deep-rooted in me. I feel I am helpless. I shall cease my interest in living if I do not achieve my aim. The more I am delaying my aim, the more firm determination I am getting to do hard work. I want to sacrifice all my life for this. I am convinced that I am not sacrificing my love, but some power is taking me away from my love. So Love is not selfish for personal gains. Love is also not that blind. Love gives you the inspiration to work hard and hard for your aim. 

If your aim is for the welfare of society, then love shall help you achieve that aim which is good for everyone. So love is sacrifice. Love is mighty. Love is above all. One can never forget her love. Love is pure as God. Love is power. Love can never be selfish. Love begets love. 

Today I am 60. I found that I failed. I failed to get my love. I failed to be with someone who loved me. I failed to achieve my aim. I never thought of money. So I failed to be a rich man. I failed, and I failed in most of my dreams. I do not know why? Perhaps I lived in my dreams. I never had the guts to rebel. I never wanted to annoy my father or mother. I tried to get what I could not get. Opportunities were plenty. I always missed it. So my best wishes to persons who could get their first love. It must be a great feeling to live together. But one has to go first. It may be a great loss to lose whom you love the most.

Infatuation of young age

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

Be what you are, give what you can, rest of time remain busy in your self. 

The poverty of a country is known by the prosperity of its advocates. 

Keep smile world is like the camera. 

He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals. 

Men who make money rarely saunter; Men who save money rarely swagger. 

A man of character will make himself worthy of any position he is given. 

Humbleness with truth works as a catalyst to win the heart of other people. 

Love is the gift given by God to living beings. Death is the real happiness of life. People are lucky who die soon and are unlucky who die later and suffer the miseries of life. We all are children of the same parents. So let us forget our differences and work to unite humanity.

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh India 

 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

It is challenging to differentiate between infatuation, love, and sex. Marriage may or may not result from all this. I am writing what I wrote when I entered to teen years of my life. How much good do you feel when your heart beats and you just want to see your first mate. You just want to see her hair. You want to see her face. You want to see her hands, feet, etc. You want to talk to her. You want to wait for her. You always think about her. You can not look at her eyes. Her eyes are compelling. Once she looks at you, and you look into her eyes, you forget time. Time stops for you. You are her prisoner. She controls you and your brain. You are puppets in her hand. Her smile means life for you. Her company removes your tiredness. Her little touch creates the feeling of luck. Even if she combs her hair, you just want to see her, and her only and time can just pass away. 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh

You do not care for anything and just wait to meet her. For you, this is the only time, and this time is the only life for you. Poets of all languages have explained this infatuation in so many words. It can be Heer and Ranjha in Punjabi language or Shakuntala of Kaali Das. Writers have also written about it in many words. Some have become famous, and some are not. 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

The basic aspect of infatuation is that it starts in teen years, and everyone becomes the slave of this. Some may learn it faster and move to the next category. Some remain in infatuation period and could not dare to talk to the opposite sex. You may lose or enjoy that time. But the hard fact is that time does not wait for anyone. It remains infatuation only, and you never meet again with the person you wanted to talk to and share thoughts. This is or was in India in 1968. 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

Time changes, and so does the culture of each country. Some people learn faster, and they start loving the opposite sex. That is known as Love. I was young and studying in one of the finest colleges of engineering in Chandigarh. The University area was nearby. Engineering college students were in demand. Our hostel was very near to the hostel of doctors studying post-graduation. I came from a village, and I started learning life. We were in a hostel. We were busy studying. We were all of the same age. Some were lucky to have rich parents, and some were lucky to have good friends from rich families. Some were from village families. I was coming from Delhi by Kalka Mail to Chandigarh.

The train started around 10:00 PM. Some girls were also in that IInd class compartment. These girls were also studying at Punjab University. They also stayed in the girls' hostel. One girl started flirting with me. She wanted to talk, or I do not know. The complete night they did not let me sleep. It was 16th August 0f 1966. I wanted to talk to her, but I did not know how to break this type of Ice. They were four girls. I realized that I am trembling and I am not able to talk to them. I was attracted by these girls, and I must have wasted time to see these girls in the Punjab University market area. 

While I was wasting time to meet these girls but I never missed my main aim. My main aim was that I should serve humanity and work for the unity of the world. So I knew that I have to finish my studies as soon as possible to work and earn my livelihood. I wanted to work while I was studying. Once I was working as Riksha Puller. These girls met me. She wanted to go to a picture or cinema house. I pulled Riksha and enjoyed such hard work. I got 50 NP and 75 NP for this hard work. They belong to Delhi and Ambala. I was not an expert in Riksha Pulling. I also applied for a Job as Tutor. I came in contact with K.C. Jain. He wanted that I should teach his son. I did that job, but I had to leave after two months as I had to appear for my Exams. 

All this happened not because of money but because I was infatuated with those girls who teased me during my Rail Journey. If Infatuation is so powerful, then love is still mighty. Once you control the heart of another person, then he becomes your slave. And that is the power of Love.

Memories till 1966.

Chandigarh Railway Station of India

"Though centuries may crumble into dust, and years may fly like shadows, 

Thou memory will remain fresh, like morning dew in my mind." 

People entering in one compartment when train stops at Chandigarh Railway Station

Life is really, very, very short to live. It is a concise journey. The train journey is also concise. One has to live. There are no alternatives. One can cry or enjoy or take it as it comes. I am trying to achieve my aim, which is impossible. I get, which I never expect. Some unknown power is governing our lives. We are only medium or intermediation, by which unknown power complete its wishes. 

Chandigarh Railway Station

My mother was uneducated. She was truthful. She was always worried about me. Being the only son, she did not want that I learn bad habits. My sisters were older than me. I learned from my sister's mistakes. My father or mother never scolded me. I still remember that my mother woke us, and she also used to sit near us. It does not mean that only my mother used to be awake, but my father also used to get up in the morning hours so that children can get up and study. 

My mother used to say, " get up from the bed, stand up and go to the corner of the room and take a book in your hand and study" She used to warn me that do not misunderstand that you are the only son. You may get more love and affection" Earlier in India, sons used to get more additional food or better behavior from parents in comparison to girls. So I used to get more attention so that I do not learn bad habits. 

Chandigarh Railway Station

My mother used to worship a lot while worshiping her soul used to see other souls. I still remember that once I was playing near my home with one boy and two girls. My mother called me and scolded me. She did not allow me to play with girls. I may be around 8-9 years old. My mother has never shown love for me. She used to love me but did not want to show her love. She was afraid that I may not become a bad man. This all indicates that my mother was prudent to bring me up.

I am grateful to her. But, unfortunately, I picked up more of her habits. I enjoyed the love of my sisters. My eldest sister's name is Kushal, and my elder sister's name is Jugal. Kushal married V.N. Mohan, and Jugal married C.P. Bali. I passed my high school in the first division, got a national merit scholarship, and got the first division in Intermediate. My teachers were Sita Ram Shashtri and Brij Bhushan from nearby villages like Rohana and Beheri Village. I did my Bachelor of Science from D.A.V. College Muzaffar Nagar. My teachers were Prem Prakash Tayal, S.N.Gaur, Bhatnagar. 

I stayed with my uncle Shri Mohinder Sain. These two years were the first two years when I was away from my parents. During this period, I learned a lot. I learned so many things from my Aunt. I learned the nature of firm determination, frankness to say clearly your point of view. I worked hard in Bsc Part (I) but did not get a good % final examination. In Bsc Part ( II ) or final year, I got good marks in exams and got admission to Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh. 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

In the first year in PEC, I started knowing Sat Pal Choudhry and Naresh Chand Jain. We were roommates in the hostel of PEC. Ambrish and Raj Kumar were both good singers. In the first year, I tried to help everyone. Due to my father and family, I could develop a good relationship with the business magnets of Chandigarh. Mr. Amarnath Mohan and Mr. Bagai helped me. I used to meet them very often as they had an excellent influence in Chandigarh. 

Punjab Engineering College Chandigarh 

I developed my relationship with Doctors studying in MD at Post Graduate Institute ( PGI ). I developed contacts and helped others with these contacts. I spent money and time developing my contacts and wanted to serve others in my free time. Dr. Vasudevan, Dr. Vadhwa, Dr. Kamal Nain, Dr. Rikhi, Dr. Kataria, and Dr. Gupta. All loved and helped me like brothers. So I remained active in my first year of engineering and tried to help others with whatever money or time. Let me write that it does not mean that I did not study. These were my extracurricular activities. I never gossiped. So 1966 passed away. Years passed by. I miss my friends. I wish them all the best.

Guru and Sexual abuse

Amrit Inter College Rohana Kalan Muzaffar Nagar Uttar Pradesh India

I start with my Guru. I respect him. In the Hindi language, there is the importance given to Guru. Guru is considered above God or supreme power of Nature or Planets. Without Guru / Teacher, one can not learn or gain knowledge.

Amrit Inter College Rohan Kalan 

I love my Guru. I hate my Guru. I want to touch his feet. I want to slap on his face. I give respect to one side and want to kill him also. This is only due to his double character. He behaves like he is holy. He is a liar. He used to exploit my innocence. He has taken disadvantage of ours, especially my gentleness. He has made my mentality so mean that it took time to recover. At that time, I was in the 8th class. I may be around 11 to 12 years. He used to play with my body parts. One of my friends resisted and fought with him. Guru used to beat him. This is not expected from GURU.

Amrit Inter College Rohana Kalan Muzaffar Nagar U.P. India

Once we decided to tell him. We told him that this is wrong on his part. Guru realized his mistake. Old habits die hard. After some days, he started repeating the same, and I did not protest. My friend did protest. He used to get beaten. Guru took more interest in me, and I used to come first in the class. My name is still on the board of Amrit Inter College Rohana Kalan. I was always first in my class. In High School or Intermediate, I was first in my school and rank holder in my state Uttar Pradesh. I got a national Scholarship from High School onwards.

Amrit Inter College Rohana Kalan Muzaffar Nagar U.P. India 

He used to be us from morning 05:00 hrs till night 22:00 hrs. Only during school hours, he was away, or during the food-eating time.

Amrit Inter College Rohana Kalan Muzaffar Nagar, U.P. India

So some people are good from the outside but bad from the inside. Be aware of these people. They may be Guru or Saint or Yogi or Criminal or Politician. History has many examples which can prove that one should not trust what one sees. Sex is potent and has always created dents in society. It is true today, and It was true earlier. 

Sweet Shop at the Gate of Rohana Kalan Muzaffar Nagar U.P. and my childhood friends

I visited Rohana Kalan to take my birth certificate letter. But there was no record of birth available in 1947 till the law to record birth and death was passed. 

Amritsar Sugar Factory Rohana Kalan with my Uncle Sardar Shaym Singh and others

I was born in a sugar factory known as Amritsar Sugar Factory Rohana Kalan, Muzaffar Nagar.

Due to publicity now we know more. Recently Jessica Murder Case or Arushi murder case and the case of the president of the USA or minister in India are examples of the negative power of sex. Every human being can not control sex. So one should accept the Truth.